When fear is the one acting in a relationship.
Everyone has an idea in their mind about what a good relationship should look like. Partnership, sibling bond, friendship, parent–child, money, career, health…
In reality, there is no good or bad.
There is only RELATIONSHIP. You yourself are that.
How many men and women destroy their partnership while always blaming the other? Parents blame their children, children blame their parents…
How many people still submit themselves to an old pattern, hiding their own needs so they won’t anger, hurt, or offend the other?
Do you know this? All of it is generated by fear.
It brings back old patterns — everything that once happened when you dared to say you would rather go on holiday than visit the mother-in-law, that you wanted to eat in a restaurant during your vacation because you didn’t want to cook and clean there as well, that your best friend is a man/woman… And the other person always knew better how — according to them — you should feel or behave as a woman, partner, parent, child.
You were forced to defend yourself for things you never did, or for something that was natural and guided by love for you. Something that was nothing more than a feeling of human kindness. Because you were — and are — in peace with people and with the world.
So you learned to remain silent. Just as your mother, grandmother, father once did…
To avoid being questioned, punished for nothing, to avoid conflict — in the name of peace.
But can there be peace if, instead of love, fear is the one speaking — or remaining silent — inside you?
Do you truly love yourself if you don’t stand up for yourself and your decisions?
Honestly. What the other person does with it is their business. But you stand up for yourself.
Why do you think you need permission from anyone to do what feels right in your heart?
If they don’t believe you, it means they still don’t trust themselves.
Who is to blame? No one.
Whatever happens, happens for a reason — because the situation brings up old, unprocessed pain in both you and the other person, suppressed and rejected emotions that can now heal and transform. Whether it is an old disappointment, a karmic bond, or an inherited family drama — it doesn’t matter.
Are you finally ready to face it?
Then don’t believe what your head is shouting — instead, observe which feelings it opens up!
Dive into it completely —
so that the good feeling can finally be here.
